Who You Surround Yourself With Impacts Your Life
There are people who will have a positive impact on your life and others who will have a negative effect. Being picky about who you surround yourself with is an excellent trait to have. Some people are naturally negative, and they bring negative energy and situations to your life that you didn’t ask for. Being aware of these certain types of people can help you be more cautious and avoid them when possible. This is YOUR life, and nobody should be allowed to alter it negatively. It’s okay to be selfish with your time and who you spend it with!
Five People To Avoid
1. The Gossiper
This person will always tell you more than you need to know. They always seem to have something or someone to talk about, and they have no reservations with openly telling this information to you. If someone can talk to you about someone, please be smart enough to know that they are probably doing it behind your back as well. Gossipers love to talk about drama which means they enjoy drama. Do you really want drama obsessed people in your life? No, I didn’t think so. Avoid this type of person at all costs. Gossipers can be extremely toxic to Iyou life.
2. The Complainer
This person has a BILLION problems, and all they want to do is talk about them. Nothing is ever good enough, and there is ALWAYS something “wrong” in their life. They complain about anything and everything, and most of the time they do it for attention. They rather have a pity party then just be happy. These type of people can even up complaining about you when they run out of other shit to complain about. They are walking around with a storm cloud over their head, and they don’t mind taking their storm into your life. Avoid complainers and their negativity. It’s unhealthy, annoying and just too much pessimism to try to cope with.
3. The Unmotivated
This type of person loves to talk about things that they want to change about their life, but they never do it. They are talkers, but no do’ers. They never want to do anything outside of their comfort zone and get too comfortable in their ways. Someone who is not willing to try new things or make their life better will not be a positive influence in your life. You have to surround yourself with like-minded people. People that don’t want to advance, try new things or just change their lazy ways are not the best people to associate with. They will not support you and your endeavors, and they can bring you down to their lazy level. Don’t let them drain you of your motivation!
4. The Over-Agreeable
At first, this type of person can come across as someone with good intentions. They are someone who always agrees with everything someone says or does. They want to come across as supportive like they are your personal cheerleader. The problem with this person is that they never keep it real. Their ability to agree with absolutely everything will eventually come off as fake. Fake people who act like they are everybody’s best friend are people you should definitely avoid. This is passive-aggressive behavior. Someone who is over-agreeable might say they agree with everything you say, but they probably don’t truly support you or care about you. BE AWARE!
5. The Liar
I saved the worst for last. Liars are horrible toxic people, and they usually cause a lot of heartache and pain. Liars can range from people who tell little lies about themselves or orthers to huge lies that are just plain mean and unforgivable.You can’t trust someone who would lie to your face and then not admit when they are wrong. This is not a friendship or relationship it’s just a bond built on lies and bullshit. Liars don’t care about who they hurt all they care about is making themselves get away with their lies. You want to surround yourself with people that are honest with themselves and you. Liars can’t be trusted. You definitely don’t need this type of person around you if you are trying to live a positive life!
Protect Yourself!
These types of people can be found just about everywhere. Coworkers, family, friends, acquaintances, strangers, or even people that you live with. Take notice of how certain people affect your mood and mindset. If people make you feel shitty about yourself or bring you down, then you need to remove them from your life. Life is too short to spend time with toxic people. Even if you only have 5 REAL friends and they are not one of these types of people, then you are winning! It’s about quality, not quantity! Be selective and don’t be afraid to tell one of these people why you cant associate with them anymore.
Share With Us!
Have you experienced one or all of these types of people?! How did YOU deal with them? Please comment and share!
Thanks for sharing, this is so true. The complainer really hit home to me, as I have a battle with removing this type of person out of my life because I often wonder if they understand what they are doing. Great post!
It’s nice to be on the same page about this Natasha.
Ugh, I totally feel you about the complainer. I can totally see them taking it the wrong way and not understand where you’re coming from. But hey, sometimes you need to think about yourself and this is the perfect circumstance for that.
Thank you so much for commenting and can’t wait to hear from you again!
I have dealt with some people with the same issue. I sometimes think that some people dont know what they are doing but most of them do. I think the problem is that complainers dont realize they are being negative because they dont see an issue with their constant complaining to begin with! Its a tough friendship to have, that’s for sure!
Unfortunately I have people in my life who fall into all of these categories. I’m in the process of doing a little friendship spring cleaning, and letting some of these people go. You are right that it’s the quality of friendships not the quantity!
“Friendship spring cleaning” is exactly what we all need LOL! I love it!
Great tips, I know way too many people that fit the complainer type!
Right! If only they could see the glass half full just a little more…
Another type of person to avoid is: Know it alls. No matter what you say, they think they have to say something about it, just so they can think they sound smarter than everybody else.
However, these people are usually not very smart at all. Half the things they say are not even true either.
A lot of those people were not very good in school. They just think since they are not really very intelligent, they can at least try to sound smart so people won’t realize that they are actually an idiot with an IQ of 50 or lower!
They might even look up one or two trivial facts about everything, just so they will have something to say about everything.
I’ve known a lot of know it alls. Most of them were among the dumbest people I’ve ever met in my life!
Most people who are really intelligent don’t brag about it and they don’t try to act like they know everything.
PREACH.IT.DAVID!
That is the truth. Those are also the type of people that want to top your story or tell you how to do something better. Annoying! Thank you so much for your detailed thoughts. Please, keep the comments coming!
Gossiping people always make me so uncomfortable. If they talk about others, you know they talk about you aswell.
Kim. it is sad but true. Watch out for those ones.
At think everyone knows AT LEAST one of these types of people. You definitely have to watch yourself around gossipers!!
I think the worst type for me isn’t listed and it’s “the put-er down-er”. They can’t be happy with themselves so they have to put somebody else down to make them look better.
Yes! I know some people like this is as well. They are similar to the person who complains about everything and anything. People who put other people down just because is not OK in my book. I have no problem calling out people who do this!
And then there is the talented individual who radiates all 5 of these qualities in [over] abundance!
Nicole, that person is the ULTIMATE person to stay away from!! Thats just bad news!!
Thanks for the information
Thank you for reading!