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Since When Are Earbuds an Accessory?

March 29, 2018 by Raynita 5 Comments

Earbuds Are Everywhere!!!

Everywhere you go, you see someone with earbuds in their ears. At the store, the bank, school, and airports. Earbuds are everywhere!!! Most of the time, they’re either staring into their phone scrolling nonchalantly, listening to music with those “don’t bother me eyes”, or using them as a deterrent to socialize. Either way, earbuds annoy me!

Daily, I am asking my students to take out their earbuds while in the classroom. I catch myself talking to people who are on the phone using theirs and not talking to me at all. It happens constantly to me. I think they’re asking me a question and I began to answer it, only to be interrupted by a weird look and a finger point to the earbuds. I just find earbuds super unsocial. When I go to school campuses, most students have earbuds in. Some are still talking to others but then why have them in?

Why Do They Wear Them?

So, I asked my students who wear them constantly, “why do you always have your earbuds in?”.  Some said they’re listening to music. And yes, this is true but don’t you think it’s a good idea to take them out once your in a social setting?  Others say that they forget they have them on. Really? You forget you have this foreign object in your ear, that is connected by a cord, that’s connected to the phone in your pocket? That’s hard for me to believe. Wearing them seems like the “cool” thing to do if you ask me.

People will talk to me while they have their buds in and after I respond, they reply with a “what”, “huh”. TAKE OUT YOUR DAMN EARBUDS AND MAYBE YOU’LL HEAR ME RIGHT THE FIRST TIME! It is so frustrating. There are a time and place for everything and that includes wearing your earbuds too.

Where You Should and Shouldn’t Wear Earbuds

Yes, of course, it is okay to wear them at certain times. The difference is knowing when the time is appropriate, compared to when it can be taken rudely. Of course, there are places where they are completely okay. At the gym, bus stop, on public transportation, or anywhere where were it is safe to not hear your surroundings. Because, let’s be honest, not being able to hear your surroundings can be super dangerous. Now, for places where it is NOT okay to wear earbuds… Church (don’t even get me started on Snapchatting at Chruch), the classroom because it is super disrespectful unless it’s with the teachers’ permission, a bank because everything that goes on there should be confidential and private. I never understand how anyone would think it is okay to have earbuds on while at dinner with anyone. Earbuds can also be a safety issue so doing such things as driving and walking your dog should be done without them as well.

I understand the convenience but we don’t need that over socialization. Yes, having music or entertainment at your fingertips to past the time is understandable, but just like everything else, there is a time and place for that too. I would take a conversation any day, over standing next to someone awkwardly wondering if they have any idea that I am there.  I believe if we took the time out to get to know the people around us, this world would be a better place.

 

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If I Smile Will You Stop Staring?

March 20, 2018 by Jessica 2 Comments

Have you ever been minding your own business and look up to find someone just staring at you? Of course, you have, we all have. It’s fucking annoying. Or how about when you are walking or just sitting somewhere, again minding your own business, and a complete stranger blurts out, “You should smile.” These two things annoy the utter shit out of me, so I am here to bitch it out once and for all. It needs to be in writing how much I detest these two things. If you happen to be someone who randomly tells strangers to smile or is someone who stares at people longer than socially acceptable, then I advise you not to read any further as this might offend you. You have been warned.

People Who Stare

Where I’m from, people will literally talk shit to you without a second’s hesitation if they catch you staring at them for longer than what they think is acceptable. Unfortunately, not everyone has been taught how rude staring is, and it is somewhat of an epidemic in our society. This shit is happening on a daily basis to people all over the world. These habitual rude ass people with eyeballs that they don’t know how to control..NEED TO BE CHECKED!

Example 1 of 4,756,876

Just yesterday I was having lunch with my husband and mid-bite I look up to find this woman just staring at me. It was awkward, and I looked away and finished my mouthful of food. As if the first incident wasn’t weird enough, it happened AGAIN a few minutes later, and this time, with a mouth full of food, I raised my eyebrows and gave the “what are you looking at “ signal without speaking. She got the message after the 2nd nonverbal exchange, and I didn’t catch her staring again. She was a quick learner. Other people will just keep staring at I don’t understand what the hell is so fucking entertaining. Is there something on my face? Did one of my eyelashes come unglued? Did a bird shit on my hair? Perhaps there’s a booger in my nose? Is my zipper down? Did my shirt come open and I’m flashing people without knowing? Have you never seen an interracial couple before? I mean give me something. If there is a reason for prolonged staring, then there should be a good fucking reason behind it. If one of those things was actually taking place, then have the common courtesy of telling the person that they have shit on their face instead of just staring and making everyone uncomfortable.

How To React To These People

There are many ways to react when someone is staring at you. I personally have many different ways of handling this situation depending on my current circumstance. I don’t want to get ratchet in the wrong place so depending on where I am will usually determine my response. Some of my personal favorites are the following:
– I stare back with a bitchy ass look on my face to let them know that I see them
– I raise my eyebrows, and sometimes give the matching raised arms to communicate, “what the fuck are you staring at?!?”
– The exaggerated and annoyed, “Hiiiiii” and maybe throw in a wave
– My personal favorite. “BOO!!!” My husband even mentioned in his vows that he will always stand beside me even well I yell “Boo” at people who stare too long. THAT’S HOW MUCH I USE THIS! LOL

The Smile Comment

Who the fuck do people think they are to tell me to smile? First of all, I don’t know you. Second of all, if I do know you, then that doesn’t mean I owe you a damn smile. Am I supposed to walk around like a clown and have a big ass smile plastered on my face 24/7? NO. Why do people think this is an acceptable statement to make to someone? My Mother-in-law is the only person who can get away with this, and that’s because she’s my mother in law. Most of the time yes, its men who make this comment and honestly why the hell am I going to give some stranger the satisfaction of me smiling at them because they requested it? It’s just fucking weird. Never mind the awkward ass response I do or do not give after someone tells me to smile. I’m not a puppet, and you can’t just go around telling me to do things. If you don’t like my face the way it is naturally, then I don’t give a shit. My natural look whether it comes across as bitchy or happy is nobody else’s concern, and they need to learn to keep their damn comments to themselves.

Lessons Learned

It’s not nice to stare or to tell people to smile. It’s rude and to some degree even pervy. And for the record, I don’t want my thoughts on smiling to be taken out of context. I love laughing, and I smile often but its just plain weird when complete strangers or maybe even people you do know, tell you to do something with YOUR face. It’s one thing if my husband tells me smile when he knows I’m having a bad day but Joe Schmo in the Starbucks line has no right to input on the current status of my demeanor. I reserve my smiles for when they count not for just walking around the mall smiling at every Tom, Dick, and Harry that I pass. No thank you. And, I don’t plan on changing how I address people who have staring problems. Some people deserve a solid whap upside the head to get their eyeballs to go in a different direction, but since I typically refrain from physical violence, I will continue to yell “Boo” and give people dirty ass looks who piss me off with their incessant staring.

This was therapeutic as fuck. I’m so glad I bitched this out.

Please feel free to bitch about when YOU find yourself in one of these situations! Let’s help one another with useful tips and advice!

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Filed Under: Bitch it Out Tagged With: bitch it out, pet peeves, Respect, Smile

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