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Holidays with Eat Figs Not Pigs

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Eat Figs Not Pigs for the Holidays

We teamed up with our wonderful friends at Eat Figs Not Pigs, to discuss how to eat vegan during the holidays. The holidays are times for gathering with friends, family, and feasting together on wonderful food. Of course, not everyone is vegan, so finding a dish to make that everyone can enjoy can be tricky. If you are looking for something new to try this holiday season, maybe think about giving a vegan recipe a shot! Who knows, it just might end up being so good that no one can even tell it’s vegan!

Questions For Eat Figs Not Pigs

BestieTalks : The holidays are tricky as a vegan. I have experienced going to parties where there might be only one or two items that I could eat and most often it was fruits or veggies. I would miss out on that “hearty” part of a holiday meal. Is there a main dish recipe that you would recommend for the upcoming holidays? 

Eat Figs Not Pigs : Yes! There are so many, actually! Tofurky, Gardein, and Trader Joe’s all have a “Holiday Roast” that is actually pretty tasty! I usually ditch the gravy packets and make my own (recipe for my mushroom gravy is included with the Holiday Croquettes recipe). You can find these at many local grocery stores and at all Health food stores such as Whole Foods and Sprouts. If faux meats aren’t your thing, stuffed acorn squash is delicious and makes for a beautiful presentation! We actually have a recipe for that on our blog as well! Some other great mains for the Holidays are butternut squash risotto, which we’ll be sharing a recipe for very soon! We also love Butternut Squash Ravioli with Sage Brown Butter Sauce, Fettuccine with a Creamy Squash or Pumpkin Sauce, Lentil or Mushroom Loaf Wrapped in Puff Pastry with Savory Mushroom Gravy – www.hotforfood.com and www.itdoesnttastelikechicken.com have really tasty recipes for Puff Pastry Wrapped Loaves!

BestieTalks: What are your go-to favorite vegan sides for holiday dinners?

Eat Figs Not Pigs: 

  • Mac and Cheese – Mississippi Vegan (www.mississippivegan.com) has the FUCKING BEST recipe for mac and cheese I’ve ever had! HIGHLY RECOMMEND! Everyone will love this recipe, vegan or not! For some extra texture, I like to sprinkle the top with panko bread crumbs and melted butter and hit it under the broiler for a couple minutes.
  • Mashed Potatoes – Classic, versatile, minimal ingredients, EASILY veganizable, simple to make. You can’t go wrong with mashed potatoes!
  • Green Bean Casserole – The three years we’ve been vegan, we’ve also had the pleasure of hosting both Thanksgiving and Christmas. Our recipe for Green Bean Casserole is a HUGE hit among my meat-eating family. Such a hit, that they make my vegan version over the traditional version now. Ditch that canned mushroom soup and let me show you what REAL green bean casserole is supposed to taste like 🙂
  • Scalloped Potatoes – Another recipe we have on the blog, and it is very popular! Potatoes are a MUST during the holidays.
  • Roasted Veggies – With all the starchy foods during the holidays, it’s nice to have some good ol’ roasted veggies. I tend to go for root vegetables during the colder months, but choose whatever veggies you know and love! I like to season mine with a little brown sugar and ginger.

BestieTalks: If I needed a vegan dish last minute without a lot of time to cook or prepare- what would you recommend? A quick and easy recipe to put together or maybe even a store-bought item that could win over a crowd?

Eat Figs Not Pigs: 

Last minute – I recommend checking your local health food store’s “hot meal” or “ready meal” sections. During the Holiday months, Whole Foods, Sprouts, and Lassen’s tend to carry many vegan options such as  Mashed Potatoes, Gravy, Pies, etc.

Quick & Easy – I really love Daiya boxed mac and cheese! You can find them at most health food stores. Each box feeds maybe 2 people, though…so you may need to buy a few if you’re attending a party with a lot of guests.

Quick & Easy – Mashed potatoes are always a go-to quick and easy dish! I like to add vegan butter, a little bit of non-dairy milk, vegan sour cream (Tofutti brand is my favorite and easily accessible), LOTS and LOTS  of fresh garlic, fresh chives, and some salt and pepper. Pro Tip – Purchase baby potatoes and quarter them for quicker cooking time!

Quick & Easy – PASTA! Noodles take only a few minutes to prepare and you can whip up a delicious and creamy sauce in the time the noodles are cooking if you’ve got a good blender! Blend up some cashews, non-dairy milk, canned pumpkin (the real kind, not the stiff for pumpkin pie), sage, garlic, vegan Parmesan, salt and pepper. Blend until creamy and smooth and voila! You’ve got a creamy, herb-y Pumpkin Alfredo sauce that will be sure to wow everyone!

Quick and Easy – Bruschetta! I love Bruschetta, as most people do! You can keep it classic or jazz it up with vegan cream cheese, cranberries or pomegranates, drizzled with some fresh sage and store-bought balsamic glaze.

BestieTalks: What tiny changes could be made to classic holiday dishes that could turn them into a new favorite vegan classic? Like green bean casserole, stuffing, gravy etc.

Eat Figs Not Pigs: So many EASY AF changes you can make to veganize almost any dish! If a recipe calls for butter, buy vegan butter such as Earth Balance or I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter. Swap regular milk for non-dairy milk such as Almond, Soy, Hemp, Coconut, or Cashew. If a recipe calls for eggs as a binder, there are tons of egg replacements such as Bob’s Red Mill brand, Ener-G, Follow Your Heart, Flax eggs (tons of recipes online), or ground Chia seeds. There is even vegan half-and-half for creamier recipes! All these ingredients are pretty easy to find!

BestieTalks: Every party needs a fun drink! Do you have a favorite drink that you would recommend for a holiday gathering?

Eat Figs Not Pigs: Any drink that gets me drunk is a fun drink, in my opinion. Just kindding (kind of). On the real, though, I know people love egg nog (I personally hate it), so spiked egg nog is a go-to. Even my local grocery store has several brands of vegan egg nog, so it should be easily accessible in most cases! I also love anything cinnamon-y during the holidays, so a Fireball Sangria would be tasty and festive af. Bailey’s also has an Almond Milk Vegan version out now! I always love Bailey’s during the Holidays!

RECIPE #1 – GARLIC HERBED SCALLOPED POTATOES

INGREDIENTS:
1 large shallot, minced
1 tsp of each – sage, rosemary, thyme (preferably fresh, minced)
3 cloves garlic, minced
1/2 cup onion, chopped
2 cups non-dairy milk
3 TBS cornstarch
3 TBS vegan butter, such as Earth Balance
1 – 7 ounce package Follow Your Heart Smoked Gouda Slices, cut into cubes
5-6 red potatoes, sliced thinly
Salt and pepper to taste
Fresh chives, to garnish

INSTRUCTIONS:
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit.
2. Arrange sliced potatoes in an oven safe dish or cast iron skillet, 
set aside.
3. In a saucepan, heat butter over low heat. Once butter begins to 
melt, slowly stir in cornstarch, fresh herbs, and salt and pepper 
until smooth.
4. Add onions, shallot, and garlic. Cook on low for another 2-3 minutes.
Slowly add non-dairy milk and bring to a boil. Stir constantly until 
the sauce has thickened, about 3-5 minutes.
5. Reduce heat to low and add in the cheese cube, stirring until they 
have formed a creamy “cheese” sauce.
6. Pour sauce over the sliced potatoes, cover and bake in preheated 
oven for 1 hour. Uncover and bake an additional 45 minutes (for extra 
crispiness and cheesy bubbliness, we broiled them the last five 
minutes).
7. Serve warm garnished with fresh chives.
ENJOY!!!

RECIPE #2 – VEGAN HOLIDAY CROQUETTES WITH MUSHROOM GRAVY

INGREDIENTS:

Mushroom Gravy:
8 oz button mushrooms, diced
4 TBS vegan butter
4 TBS all purpose flour
1 1/2 cups water
1 “Not Beef” bouillon cube

Croquettes:
Oil, for frying
3 Russet potatoes, peeled and cut into cubes
8 TBS vegan butter, divided
1 small carrot, chopped
1 stalk celery, chopped
1 small yellow onion, chopped
1 1/2 cups unsweetened original almond milk, divided
1/2 cup all purpose flour
1 TBS of fresh rosemary, thyme and sage, minced and fresh if possible
8 oz Sweet Earth seitan strips, chopped
1/2 cup dried cranberries
2 vegan eggs, we use Ener-G Egg Replacer
2 cups panko bread crumbs, divided
Salt and pepper to taste

INSTRUCTIONS:

Mushroom Gravy:
1. In a small saucepan, melt butter on medium-low heat
2. Add mushrooms and saute until most of the moisture has cooked out, 
about 5-7 minutes
3. Add flour and bouillon cube, mixing to combine all the ingredients
Slowly add in water
4. Increase heat to high and whisk gravy until it boils lightly and 
becomes thicker in consistency
5. Cover and simmer on very low until ready to serve

Croquettes:
1. Prepare vegan eggs according to package directions
2. Fill a large pot with salted water and bring to a boil. Cook 
potatoes until they are very tender and easy to mash
3. While potatoes are boiling, melt 2 tablespoons of vegan butter in a 
large saucepan on medium heat. Saute carrots, onion, celery, and herbs 
until warmed through and fragrant, about 5-7 minutes. Add chopped 
seitan pieces and cook an additional 5-7 minutes. Set mixture aside.
4. When potatoes are done boiling, drain them and transfer to a large 
bow. Mash them with the remaining vegan butter and 1/2 cup unsweetened 
original almond milk. Mash the potatoes until they are free from 
clumps and creamy
5. Add seitan and herb mixture to the mashed potatoes, along with 
vegan eggs and 1/2 cup panko bread crumbs. Season with salt and pepper 
to taste, mixing to combine all the ingredients
6. Set up your dredging station. In one bowl, add the remaining bread 
crumbs. In another bowl, add the remaining almond milk. In a third 
bowl, add the flour
7. Form mashed potato mixture into balls (we used about 1 heaping 
tablespoon of mashed potato mixture to form a ball). Once the balls or 
“croquettes” are formed, roll them into the flour, then the milk, then 
the bread crumbs. Make sure for each part of the coating process, you 
coat each croquette thoroughly. If you want EXTRA crispy croquettes, 
you can repeat the process one more time.
8. Fry the croquettes in oil (350 degrees F) for about 5-7 minutes, or 
until golden brown and crispy
9. Serve hot with mushroom gravy
ENJOY!

 

Connect and Cook Some Recipes!

We hope you enjoyed this article as much as we enjoyed putting it together. We learned quite a few tips ourselves and we also plan on making these recipes too! Even if you are not vegan, we hope you are inspired to give something new a try this holiday season! Eat Figs Not Pigs has an amazing blog with countless mouthwatering recipes. They are not only amazing chefs but badass women that we are glad to call friends. Connect and follow them for more amazing vegan recipes!

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10 Fall Favorites

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Fall Makes us Happy

Every year the leaves change, the temps cool down and we are reminded how happy Fall makes us. There is a sense of comfort that Fall brings. The changing of seasons also brings changes in our lives and it is something we can count on happening year after year. Cooler temps, sweaters, pumpkins and being able to cozy up near a fireplace are all things that put a big ass smile on our faces. We are so excited now that Fall is upon us that we had to make a list of our of 10 top Fall favorites! 

10 Things we Love About Fall

1) Wardrobe: Boots, scarfs, layers, oh my! What is there not to love about a Fall season wardrobe. Booties, tights with leg warmers, puffy vest, long socks, cute jackets …I can go on and on. I love a dark look so Fall is my favorite time to pull out all my dark clothing and even go a few shades lighter with make up. It’s the perfect time for neutrals, earth tones and dark clothing. Nothing like a dark sexy lip to go with a dark sexy outfit!

2) Decorating: Whether it’s pumpkins and haystacks or turkeys and Pilgrims, we love to decorate for fall! Decorating for Halloween starts off the Fall season for me. I love everything about decorating for Halloween and scaring my husband every chance I get! And if Halloween isn’t celebrated in your home, there are still so many other cute trendy decorations you can use too.

3) Football: We both love football and even have had our own football fantasy league for many years now. Football reminds of us food, friends, family, and fun! we are both really competitive so we love a little banter and teasing when it comes to football season. Chillin’ on a Sunday in a clean house with Fall scented candles burning…whats not to love?!

4) Food & Drinks: Cooler weather means more savory and belly warming foods. We both love cooking and eating and during the Fall we get to bust out some of our classic favorites and try new yummy recipes as well. Holiday parties and dinners also bring about yummy food that most people don’t cook year round. This is when the crockpots get dusted off and used weekly. Drinks too. Hot cocoa, hot tea spiked with some alcohol etc.

5) Get Together’s: People start getting together for football, holiday parties and gatherings etc. This time of year has a way of bringing people together. Whether it’s small or big, indoor or outdoors, try to make time to get with those your thankful for in this perfect season!

6) Weather:Don’t get us wrong. We absolutely love the beach, pool days and our Summer vacations BUT there’s something cozy about fall weather. Rainy days just stuck in the house can be so relaxing. There is a such thing as too cold but this is a Fall discussion not Winter lol. I don’t love the cold but I do love the spot right between hot and cold.. which brings us to Fall. Fall weather fucking rocks.

7) Fall Scents: Candles are our life year around. But, in the Fall scents like pumpkin, cinnamon, apple, pecan pie take over our homes and we love every minute of it! Incense fall into this category as well. There’s a scent called ‘baking brownies’ and those incense mixed with a pecan pie scented candle will change your life. I’m going to light that combo right now. Seriously, like right now. BRB.

8) TV Lineup: Fall is the time when season premieres of all your favorite shows begin. Survivor launches up for a new season and local tv breaks out with new shows or new seasons of all their top hits. Ray Donovan, Shameless, American Horror Story..the list goes on! This makes it really easy to grab a blanket and cozy up on the couch and watch a great show.

9) Holidays: Fall is the introduction to Holiday season. As a teacher, this means 3 day weekends and paid holiday time. Use this time to get with those who you are thankful for. It’s time for those weekend trips and celebrations with those you love. Holiday season is officially here! 

10) The Colors: Fall is naturally beautiful. The leaves change colors, the days get a littler darker and all around our world goes through a drastic and beautiful change. The end of bright Summer days brings a calm and serene vibration and it’s something we never take for granted. The darker and natural hues that you find in nature reminds us that everything goes through cycles. We change with the seasons as they change and we are here with open arms to embrace Fall!

Do you love this time of year as much as we do? If so, What do YOU love about Fall?! 

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Addiction Affects More Than Addicts

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Opening Up

We like to keep things positive and lighthearted, but life has its downsides. We are opening up about a topic that has dramatically impacted both of our lives. Addiction. If you are reading this, the chances are that you know someone who has suffered from substance abuse. Addiction comes in many forms, but they all have the same pain in common. We have felt that pain and understand that addiction affects more than addicts. Loved ones, friends, and family members all are susceptible to the pain and heartbreak that follows an addict. These are our real, honest and raw stories about our experience with addiction affecting those we love.

Jessica’s Story

This is something that is very hard for me to open up about. I am a very private person when it comes to my family, and I am very protective over those that I love. There are only a handful of people that know about this side of my life. Without those people, I probably wouldn’t have made it through all the shit I’ve endured over the years. I’m forever grateful for them. My younger sister started doing heroin five years ago. Before that it was pills. I still remember when she told me about the heroin and the urge I instantly had to want to help her. To “fix” her. I didn’t know it then, but you can’t ever “fix” an addict. Addicts can only help themselves, and until they want that help, there is nothing anyone can do. Our mother took custody of my niece and moved to another state while leaving my sister behind in Arizona. She abandoned her and left me to pick up the pieces. I have always felt responsible for my sister. In high school, our mom had an asshole of a boyfriend who lived with us. It was during those years that I became very protective of my sister.

You can’t “fix” an Addict

I thought I could fix her, make her better, help her get her daughter back, etc. but I was so naive. I was there by her side in the hospital when she overdosed. And I was there at her rehab a few times a week to check on her and bring clean clothes. We opened our doors to her when she left rehab for the first time. It wasn’t long until she stole from us and went back to living in the streets and doing drugs. By this time so much damage had been done that my family was completely ripped apart. I had no relationship with our mother or my niece, and my sister was someone I no longer knew.

I finally got my sister out of Arizona, and she went off to Texas where our Dad lives in hopes of starting a new life. She couldn’t be trusted in an airport so a train was our only option. I stood and watched until the doors closed and that train left. There was a feeling of emptiness when I got her on that train to Texas. I felt like I failed at taking care of her. She wasn’t my responsibility but watching my sister slowly kill herself was something I couldn’t let happen without attempting to help.

Struggling to Stay Sober   

She had a period of sobriety but never really had a “recovery” period. After moving to Texas, she got pregnant back to back which brought about two years of sobriety. She managed to stay clean for a while but recently fell back into her old habits. History repeated itself when she left her two youngest children and went back to her life of drug use and poor selection of “friends.” I couldn’t understand why she would do this all over again. She had a job, a car, two babies to take care of and was on the right path to getting her oldest daughter back. She just threw it all away, again. I took her into our home a few months ago, and she detoxed for a week straight. She was the thinnest I have ever seen her, and I just wanted to help her, again.

I believed her that she wanted to get clean, that she wanted help. You want to believe an addict every time they say, “I’m not gonna do this again. This was the last time. I promise.” But, it wasn’t the last time, and addicts lie so much that I think they genuinely believe their lies. I got her clean, fed, gave her some clothes and bought her a new cell phone. It’s hard dealing with an addict, and we fought constantly. Those 2 1/2 weeks felt like months. She was adamant she wanted to go back to Austin and “get her shit together.” She got on a bus from Dallas and spent a few weeks in rehab. She ended up checking herself out, “lost” her phone and all of her possessions she just regained and relapsed all over again. Every day that passes that I don’t hear from her is hard. She has no idea the pain she is inflicting on others.

Saying No

My brother in law suffers from the same substance abuse that my sister does. It’s sad to see our younger siblings just throw their lives away for a drug. My husband and I understand each other’s pain and know what it’s like to wonder where they are, if they are OK, if they are eating, if they are safe, etc. I had to cut off communication with my brother in law a few years ago because the drugs just became too much. It was too hard to see him high all the time. Due to the drugs, both of our siblings suffer from mental psychosis issues now as well. Drugs and mental illness all too often end up going hand in hand.

Last weekend my sister called me wanting to come to my house. I told her she’s not allowed in our home if she’s not clean. On top of that, I don’t condone her behavior and throwing her responsibilities as a mother out the window. I don’t respect it and won’t enable her. No, I told her no. There was a mix of emotions that I felt after she hung up on me. Telling her “no” was something I did for her and me. She doesn’t see it now, but I hope one day she will. I haven’t heard from her since and I have no way to reach her. Saying no to an addict can be a very hard thing to do. I have watched my Dad over the years as he has dealt with my sisters manipulation and it breaks my heart. The hope he has for her is never ending but he is slowly learning that he has to say no and that he has to stick with it. We aren’t turning our backs on her but we are firmly letting her know where we stand.

Wishing For Sobriety 

I miss my little sister, and I hope one day to have her back. The old her. The loving, kind, and funny sister that I remember. Not the one who leaves her kids, lies continuously and hurts everyone around her, but most of all hurts herself. I’ve accepted that I can’t fix her, but I can be here to support her when she’s ready to fix herself. Unfortunately, there’s nothing I can do but wait for this freight train she is riding to come to a halt. Until then there’s no point in me trying to jump in front to stop it.

Raynita’s Story

Substance abuse wasn’t apart of my life. But that all changed the day I met my husband. His older sister started dealing with substance abuse at the age of 13. Her drug of choice back then was alcohol. Their mom said she would never forget getting the phone call from her friend’s mom saying “Can you please come get your daughter, she is out of control.” Her daughter and her friends had got into a six-pack of wine coolers. The three of them all had one, and she ended up having the extra three and whatever else the other girls couldn’t finish. This might sound like an innocent teenage thing to do, but it was the start of her substance abuse.

Fast-forward a few years, and now she was introduced to narcotics after being a local pageant queen at the age of 17. Crazy how something so glamorous can lead you down the darkest road you will ever be on. The pageant life consisted of looking your best at all times, attending parties where you’re wined and dined by much older men, who also expected you to do basically whatever they wanted. She claims that she was expected to stay up all hours of the night and in high spirits. That’s where cocaine came into the picture. As the events and pageants continued, so did the cocaine. As she got older and began getting her more womanly figure, other girls who were joining the competition were younger and ‘thinner’ than her. So once again, cocaine was the drug she turned to so she didn’t get the craving to eat and could maintain her pageant weight. A few years later, pageants were done but her addiction wasn’t.

Substance Abuse As An Adult

My husband remembers her being about 21 when she was at their family home as she locked herself in the bathroom for hours. She came out, passed out on the floor and lost consciousness. She had overdosed. My husband called 911 as their mom is yelling at her just to breathe. The ambulance rushed in and revived her. No one knows exactly what she had overdosed on, but it was either cocaine or crank. This is a sight that continues to haunt my husband til this day.

Never Ending Cycle

Alcohol was still an issue. It had always been a part of her life because it was the easiest thing to get. She would drink and drive regularly and of course, ended up with a DUI. By the time she got her first DUI, she had already been to two state-funded rehab programs and two rehabs that my in-laws paid for. At 23, she moved in with her aunt who she would party with regularly. At one of these parties, she has introduced to this man who she instantly fell for. She was always looking for that male attention, and she found it in a guy who is 13+ years older than her. Within 60 days they had moved in together. My mother in law remembers receiving a call from him complaining about her daughter and saying that she wanted to be taken to the hospital because she feels bugs in her skin. Right away, mom knew she was using again and told him that he needs to take her to the ER. The emergency room called these “coke bugs,” and people will start feeling this sensation and hallucinations after doing cocaine or other drugs.

She and her new boyfriend would get in a fight, and that would drive her to use. Honestly, ANY negativity would be her excuse to use. Shortly after moving in together, she ends up pregnant. Now she’s 24, pregnant by a man she barely knows and still struggling with addiction. Did her pregnancy force her to stop her drug use? For a moment it did. However, she relapsed while she was pregnant and this time, went to jail. After doing her short sentence in jail, she comes out, and she and this man decide to get married. Then she has two more kids back to back which kept her sober for the time being.

Rehab

Rehab after rehab, program after program, she still couldn’t get her act together. She never acts like a wife and would meet men in these programs and AA meetings that would give her the attention she wanted, only to use her and her husband’s money. Sober living never worked either. She has easily been to 20 different rehabs up and down California. I have been to 3 different rehabs to visit her and take part in family counseling sessions. After the second one, my husband was over it. The last one we went to, I had to convince him and force him to go. But now, I have given up too because it’s the same cycle. After she got in the biggest trouble yet, she was sent to prison for a year. We all thought that was the last straw and she would have to change. Nope! She’s back at it doing the same things and running back to my in-laws home to detox week after week. Finally, we all had to cut her off. We can’t keep letting her abuse and hurt us like this.

Our biggest worry is her children. We stay in close contact with them and let them know that they’re loved, we’re here for them, and NOTHING is their fault. With me working with at-risk children, I see so many signs that can easily categorize them to be at-risk as well. These children are so strong to be dealing with this life. I just wish they were enough to keep their mom sober.

Seeking Help

There are lots of resources out there for addicts and for those affected by addicts. Books, groups, online forums, hotlines etc. It’s important to seek any and all help that you might need. 

You’re not alone.

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Five Types of People to Avoid

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Who You Surround Yourself With Impacts Your Life

There are people who will have a positive impact on your life and others who will have a negative effect. Being picky about who you surround yourself with is an excellent trait to have. Some people are naturally negative, and they bring negative energy and situations to your life that you didn’t ask for. Being aware of these certain types of people can help you be more cautious and avoid them when possible. This is YOUR life, and nobody should be allowed to alter it negatively. It’s okay to be selfish with your time and who you spend it with!

Five People To Avoid

1. The Gossiper 

This person will always tell you more than you need to know. They always seem to have something or someone to talk about, and they have no reservations with openly telling this information to you. If someone can talk to you about someone, please be smart enough to know that they are probably doing it behind your back as well. Gossipers love to talk about drama which means they enjoy drama. Do you really want drama obsessed people in your life? No, I didn’t think so. Avoid this type of person at all costs. Gossipers can be extremely toxic to Iyou life. 

2. The Complainer

This person has a BILLION problems, and all they want to do is talk about them. Nothing is ever good enough, and there is ALWAYS something “wrong” in their life. They complain about anything and everything, and most of the time they do it for attention. They rather have a pity party then just be happy. These type of people can even up complaining about you when they run out of other shit to complain about. They are walking around with a storm cloud over their head, and they don’t mind taking their storm into your life. Avoid complainers and their negativity. It’s unhealthy, annoying and just too much pessimism to try to cope with. 

3. The Unmotivated 

This type of person loves to talk about things that they want to change about their life, but they never do it. They are talkers, but no do’ers. They never want to do anything outside of their comfort zone and get too comfortable in their ways. Someone who is not willing to try new things or make their life better will not be a positive influence in your life. You have to surround yourself with like-minded people. People that don’t want to advance, try new things or just change their lazy ways are not the best people to associate with. They will not support you and your endeavors, and they can bring you down to their lazy level. Don’t let them drain you of your motivation!

4. The Over-Agreeable 

At first, this type of person can come across as someone with good intentions. They are someone who always agrees with everything someone says or does. They want to come across as supportive like they are your personal cheerleader. The problem with this person is that they never keep it real. Their ability to agree with absolutely everything will eventually come off as fake. Fake people who act like they are everybody’s best friend are people you should definitely avoid. This is passive-aggressive behavior. Someone who is over-agreeable might say they agree with everything you say, but they probably don’t truly support you or care about you. BE AWARE!

5. The Liar

I saved the worst for last. Liars are horrible toxic people, and they usually cause a lot of heartache and pain. Liars can range from people who tell little lies about themselves or orthers to huge lies that are just plain mean and unforgivable.You can’t trust someone who would lie to your face and then not admit when they are wrong. This is not a friendship or relationship it’s just a bond built on lies and bullshit. Liars don’t care about who they hurt all they care about is making themselves get away with their lies. You want to surround yourself with people that are honest with themselves and you. Liars can’t be trusted. You definitely don’t need this type of person around you if you are trying to live a positive life!

Protect Yourself!

These types of people can be found just about everywhere. Coworkers, family, friends, acquaintances, strangers, or even people that you live with. Take notice of how certain people affect your mood and mindset. If people make you feel shitty about yourself or bring you down, then you need to remove them from your life. Life is too short to spend time with toxic people. Even if you only have 5 REAL friends and they are not one of these types of people, then you are winning! It’s about quality, not quantity! Be selective and don’t be afraid to tell one of these people why you cant associate with them anymore.

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Have you experienced one or all of these types of people?! How did YOU deal with them? Please comment and share!

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