It sits there waiting for you notice it.
It’s been there all along but for some reason, you hide it like it can’t be shown to others.
Who is going to talk about it if you don’t?
If you are responsible for creating it shouldn’t you be the one that is proud to unveil it?
Why do we feel that we must dim our light to avoid negative judgment from others?
It sits there waiting for you to notice it.
It’s time to pick it up and carry it with you.
Take it, carry it with you, and be proud of who you are and your accomplishments.
Over the years I have watched myself grow as an individual. Growing up everyone around me thought I exuded confidence, but internally I struggled to be the person that the rest of the world saw. I’ve always been my own worst critic. It’s a blessing and a curse to notice all of your accomplishments and all of your flaws simultaneously. When it came to my accomplishments, I would be satisfied for a brief moment but quickly I would want more. I would put new pressures, goals, and timelines on myself, causing the pattern to start all over again. The joy that came with accomplishing something was a fleeting emotion. It is something I wish I would have allowed myself to absorb more of.
Maturity is something I recognize in myself. I have watched myself grow and change over the years. The happiness I allow myself to feel and the criticism that still lingers. I would be lying if I said that I was still not my own worst critic but I have learned to ease up on myself. Perfectionism is something that I no longer desire or chase. Instead, continual progress is how I try to view myself, my career, my relationships and my overall life in general. Not comparing myself to others or what society thinks I should look like or the things I should posses by a certain age. This is MY life and no one is living it but me.
When I started to consciously change my outlook, thoughts, and feelings, the things around me organically started to change with me. Choosing to be positive even in the most negative of situations. Deciding to tell myself I looked beautiful when seeing my reflection, instead of instantly formulating a mental checklist of all the things I need to improve. Congratulating myself over small and big accomplishments and remembering to take the time to be proud of myself and how far I’ve come. Talking to myself internally with respect and love instead constantly telling myself that I need to do more or be better. The changes I made within myself began to expand and become visible on the outside. Acknowledging myself, my accomplishments, my growth and the changes I’ve made have enhanced the confidence I’ve always had.
Different but the Same
I have always been the same girl but I am different in tiny ways that have made major impacts on my life. Being confident doesn’t mean you are stuck up or a narcissist. Being confident means you have faith in yourself and believe in your abilities to achieve all of your goals and dreams. It’s taken me 30 years to reach a point in my life where I recognize all of the things I am and all of the things I am not. I still have so much learning, growing, and transforming to do but loving myself for who I am right now, in this very moment, is a priority and a promise I have made to myself. A promise to never doubt my abilities. A promise to pick up my confidence, carry it with me wherever I go, and be proud of who I am and my accomplishments.
I’m sharing this with you because I know that I’m not the only one who can relate to this. Even if this resonates with only one person and it makes them realize how amazing they truly are, then this article did exactly what I hoped it would.
Please share your thoughts and stories! I love hearing other peoples perspective on life!