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Social Media and Mental Health

March 9, 2019 by Jessica 38 Comments

Is Social Media Affecting Your Social Relationships?

Social media has it perks and it can be a great tool to have. Other times, social media fucking sucks and it can be a place that can cause a lot of negativity. How and why you use social media varies greatly from person to person. Social media has become so intertwined in our daily lives that if you aren’t careful, it can consume you in ways that you might not even realize. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental health disorders in the United States. An alarming number of people suffer from social media anxiety disorder. How long can you go without wanting to check your phone and social media apps? Maybe it’s time to evaluate your social media use and check in with how you honestly feel about it.

Self-Evaluation Check List

Look over some of these common social media side effects and be honest with yourself about how many reside with you.

  1. I tend to be on my phone when I’m with a friend or a group of people 
  2. I constantly check my phone throughout the day and scroll through social media for notifications
  3. I have felt lonely, isolated or depressed after spending time on social media
  4. I use social media as a way to cope with being lonely
  5. I internally judge or compare my life to others that I see on social media
  6. I form negative judgments about others based upon their social media posts
  7. I often think about taking a break from social media
  8. I rather talk to people through social media instead of calling them or meeting up in person
  9. I have been a victim of negativity or hate on social media
  10. I have a “fear of missing out” if I am not constantly checking in online to see what others are up to
  11. Not being able to check my social media gives me anxiety

Did any of those examples hit home? Maybe you realize there is an aspect of your social media usage that could be affecting your overall mental health? It’s ok to admit it. A healthy relationship with social media might be difficult to attain but it is possible.

Reducing Social Media can Increase Happiness

Forbes released an article about a study done on social media anxiety disorder. Researchers found that participants who allocated a maximum of 30 minutes to social media on a daily basis reported, “that they felt less depression and loneliness over a three-week period.” It seems kind of backward that reducing the use of social media can make you feel less lonely, but there is some truth to this philosophy and I can attest to it. I deleted my Facebook 4 months ago and a heap of mental anxiety that I was walking around with was alleviated.

Benefits of a Social Media Detox

Everyone is different and requires different things. A social media detox can be as little as one day, a week or multiple weeks or months at a time. Find what works for you and adjust as needed. Some potential benefits of a social media detox could be:

  1. Reduced anxiety
  2. More time to focus on yourself- which will lead to a natural increase in happiness
  3. Reduced screen time can promote better sleep
  4. Reconnect with the awesome things about YOUR life & not everyone else’s online life
  5. Live in the moment in the REAL world
  6. Build authentic in-person relationships
  7. Stop comparing yourself to others and judging other people -in other words- REDUCED NEGATIVE THOUGHTS!
  8. Unfollow people or “friends” who you just don’t connect with anymore. It’s okay to hit the unfriend/unfollow button. It’s actually a very liberating feeling. Clean up your friends list for a better online experience.

Small Changes That will Have a Big Impact

I am not saying that you need to delete your social media or that social media will always cause anxiety or depression. Social media is great when used properly! How, when, why, where and how often you are using it just might need to be tweaked a little bit. Being self-aware and being able to self-evaluate yourself is something you should be proud of. If you can relate at all to this article then maybe you will think about adjusting your social media use. If you don’t relate to anything that I’ve mentioned, then you just might have a perfectly healthy relationship with social media and that is awesome!

Life is all about growing, evolving and taking care of yourself to the best of your ability. So go read that book, go take that yoga class, go learn a second language, cross something off your list that you have been wanting to do. You have to do what is best for YOU! I promise, your phone and social media will all still be there after you’re done doing what makes you happy first!

Your mental health is more important than notifications. Social media is not always a positive social place. Just be aware and notice if and when you need a break.

Can you relate? Please tell us your personal thoughts and stories on social media and your mental health!

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Five Types of People to Avoid

March 26, 2018 by Jessica 18 Comments

Who You Surround Yourself With Impacts Your Life

There are people who will have a positive impact on your life and others who will have a negative effect. Being picky about who you surround yourself with is an excellent trait to have. Some people are naturally negative, and they bring negative energy and situations to your life that you didn’t ask for. Being aware of these certain types of people can help you be more cautious and avoid them when possible. This is YOUR life, and nobody should be allowed to alter it negatively. It’s okay to be selfish with your time and who you spend it with!

Five People To Avoid

1. The Gossiper 

This person will always tell you more than you need to know. They always seem to have something or someone to talk about, and they have no reservations with openly telling this information to you. If someone can talk to you about someone, please be smart enough to know that they are probably doing it behind your back as well. Gossipers love to talk about drama which means they enjoy drama. Do you really want drama obsessed people in your life? No, I didn’t think so. Avoid this type of person at all costs. Gossipers can be extremely toxic to Iyou life. 

2. The Complainer

This person has a BILLION problems, and all they want to do is talk about them. Nothing is ever good enough, and there is ALWAYS something “wrong” in their life. They complain about anything and everything, and most of the time they do it for attention. They rather have a pity party then just be happy. These type of people can even up complaining about you when they run out of other shit to complain about. They are walking around with a storm cloud over their head, and they don’t mind taking their storm into your life. Avoid complainers and their negativity. It’s unhealthy, annoying and just too much pessimism to try to cope with. 

3. The Unmotivated 

This type of person loves to talk about things that they want to change about their life, but they never do it. They are talkers, but no do’ers. They never want to do anything outside of their comfort zone and get too comfortable in their ways. Someone who is not willing to try new things or make their life better will not be a positive influence in your life. You have to surround yourself with like-minded people. People that don’t want to advance, try new things or just change their lazy ways are not the best people to associate with. They will not support you and your endeavors, and they can bring you down to their lazy level. Don’t let them drain you of your motivation!

4. The Over-Agreeable 

At first, this type of person can come across as someone with good intentions. They are someone who always agrees with everything someone says or does. They want to come across as supportive like they are your personal cheerleader. The problem with this person is that they never keep it real. Their ability to agree with absolutely everything will eventually come off as fake. Fake people who act like they are everybody’s best friend are people you should definitely avoid. This is passive-aggressive behavior. Someone who is over-agreeable might say they agree with everything you say, but they probably don’t truly support you or care about you. BE AWARE!

5. The Liar

I saved the worst for last. Liars are horrible toxic people, and they usually cause a lot of heartache and pain. Liars can range from people who tell little lies about themselves or orthers to huge lies that are just plain mean and unforgivable.You can’t trust someone who would lie to your face and then not admit when they are wrong. This is not a friendship or relationship it’s just a bond built on lies and bullshit. Liars don’t care about who they hurt all they care about is making themselves get away with their lies. You want to surround yourself with people that are honest with themselves and you. Liars can’t be trusted. You definitely don’t need this type of person around you if you are trying to live a positive life!

Protect Yourself!

These types of people can be found just about everywhere. Coworkers, family, friends, acquaintances, strangers, or even people that you live with. Take notice of how certain people affect your mood and mindset. If people make you feel shitty about yourself or bring you down, then you need to remove them from your life. Life is too short to spend time with toxic people. Even if you only have 5 REAL friends and they are not one of these types of people, then you are winning! It’s about quality, not quantity! Be selective and don’t be afraid to tell one of these people why you cant associate with them anymore.

Share With Us!

Have you experienced one or all of these types of people?! How did YOU deal with them? Please comment and share!

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