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You Deserve To Be Proud

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Too Proud for Some People

Being proud of yourself and your accomplishments is easy for some but hard for others. If you are “too happy” or “too successful” a lot of people interpret that as bragging, fake, or even as a lie. Some people might even develop negative feelings towards you because of your accomplishments. Does that mean you should not talk about your happiness and success? No, absolutely not. Just because others don’t know how to be happy for you, doesn’t mean you should stop being happy for yourself. Do YOU and be PROUD!

Backward Perceptions

It can be hard to not care about what others think of you. We live in a world where people thrive on likes (literally) and notifications that let them know others approve of them. Why are we so hungry for the approval of others? Why do we let other people determine our worth and happiness? Did you get that promotion to make others happy? No. You did it for YOU. Did you work your ass off to get your degree to make others happy? No. You did it for YOU. Did you find someone who loves you and treats you like a queen to make others happy?

No! What most people fail to acknowledge is the grind you had to put in to get that promotion. The hours of homework on top of working and handling all your other responsibilities was NOT easy. The number of assholes you had to go through and the tears you shed until you found someone who loves you like you deserve to be loved. All of your happiness and accomplishments were not just dumped into your lap. You worked hard, and most people have no idea the hell you had to endure. You deserve to be proud, happy and in love.

Self-Love is Not Narcissist

A lot of people get jealous of the success that they have yet to achieve. It’s not a race, but the ones who act like it is, are usually the ones losing. I’m not competing with anyone but myself. And if you are one of those people, put that energy into something you can do to improve your own life. Then you’ll understand the amazing feeling of accomplishing something you’ve been striving for. You deserve to be proud of what you worked so hard to achieve.

Be Proud of Yourself and Others

Next time you accomplish something your proud of, be PROUD! And when you see others proud of their accomplishments, cheer them on. Cause we all know that feeling when someone acknowledges your hard work and why not share that with others. being proud is a natural happy experience so don’t let anyone dull your shine.   

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A Story of Confidence, Growth and Change

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Confidence

It sits there waiting for you notice it.

It’s been there all along but for some reason, you hide it like it can’t be shown to others.

Who is going to talk about it if you don’t?

If you are responsible for creating it shouldn’t you be the one that is proud to unveil it?

Why do we feel that we must dim our light to avoid negative judgment from others?

It sits there waiting for you to notice it.

It’s time to pick it up and carry it with you.

Your confidence.

Take it, carry it with you, and be proud of who you are and your accomplishments.

Growth

Over the years I have watched myself grow as an individual. Growing up everyone around me thought I exuded confidence, but internally I struggled to be the person that the rest of the world saw. I’ve always been my own worst critic. It’s a blessing and a curse to notice all of your accomplishments and all of your flaws simultaneously. When it came to my accomplishments, I would be satisfied for a brief moment but quickly I would want more. I would put new pressures, goals, and timelines on myself, causing the pattern to start all over again. The joy that came with accomplishing something was a fleeting emotion. It is something I wish I would have allowed myself to absorb more of.

Maturity is something I recognize in myself. I have watched myself grow and change over the years. The happiness I allow myself to feel and the criticism that still lingers. I would be lying if I said that I was still not my own worst critic but I have learned to ease up on myself. Perfectionism is something that I no longer desire or chase. Instead, continual progress is how I try to view myself, my career, my relationships and my overall life in general. Not comparing myself to others or what society thinks I should look like or the things I should posses by a certain age. This is MY life and no one is living it but me. 

Change

When I started to consciously change my outlook, thoughts, and feelings, the things around me organically started to change with me. Choosing to be positive even in the most negative of situations. Deciding to tell myself I looked beautiful when seeing my reflection, instead of instantly formulating a mental checklist of all the things I need to improve. Congratulating myself over small and big accomplishments and remembering to take the time to be proud of myself and how far I’ve come. Talking to myself internally with respect and love instead constantly telling myself that I need to do more or be better. The changes I made within myself began to expand and become visible on the outside. Acknowledging myself, my accomplishments, my growth and the changes I’ve made have enhanced the confidence I’ve always had.

Different but the Same

I have always been the same girl but I am different in tiny ways that have made major impacts on my life. Being confident doesn’t mean you are stuck up or a narcissist. Being confident means you have faith in yourself and believe in your abilities to achieve all of your goals and dreams. It’s taken me 30 years to reach a point in my life where I recognize all of the things I am and all of the things I am not. I still have so much learning, growing, and transforming to do but loving myself for who I am right now, in this very moment, is a priority and a promise I have made to myself. A promise to never doubt my abilities. A promise to pick up my confidence, carry it with me wherever I go, and be proud of who I am and my accomplishments.


I’m sharing this with you because I know that I’m not the only one who can relate to this. Even if this resonates with only one person and it makes them realize how amazing they truly are, then this article did exactly what I hoped it would.

Please share your thoughts and stories! I love hearing other peoples perspective on life!

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