Women Hating on Women
If you’re a woman reading this, then the chances are high that you have experienced hate from another woman. The chances are that at some point in your life you have talked shit about other women as well. It’s something we are all guilty of. If you’re saying you have NEVER done this, then you are either a saint or a liar. Why do we do this? Why do we think it’s so wrong for men to call us bitches and judge us strictly off of our appearance when we do it as well? Instead, we promote bashing one another when we should be our strongest allies. 
How Can She Be a Bitch if You Don’t Even Know Her?
I can’t tell you how many times that another girl has told me, ” I thought you were a bitch before I got to know you.” Should I take this as a compliment or does it really say more about that person? We are so quick to judge each other that we make our assumptions before really even knowing someone. There’s this underlying competitive nature amongst us that leads us to bash each other when we should be lifting each other up. As women, we deal with a lot of inequalities, and these inequalities lead us to promote a tough exterior. A woman who appears confident is not a stuck up bitch. Shes just confident and she should be. Who are you to judge to her because of the way she carries herself?
There’s a difference between being confident and thinking you are too good for people. There are women who fall into each category. Just like there are men who respect women and those that don’t. Some women are just plain nasty, but I’m talking about the women who are hated on without good cause. I’m sure you have been somewhere, and you can feel another woman judging you based on what you are wearing or what you look like. You might even notice when you get dirty looks. It’s so common that we have become closed off to other women simply because of premature opinions about one another.
I Don’t “Like” Her
This hate is also very much alive in the social media world. Have you ever posted a picture when you are happy and feeling beautiful only to find that some of your “friends” don’t even acknowledge it? Knowing damn well they saw it. I’m sure there are multiple women on your social media that don’t interact with you at all. You notice this and think why the fuck are we even friends? You mean to tell me that in the past year you have not “liked” one single thing that I have done, said or shared? Do you just want to be nosy on my page, is that it? I’m quick to hit the “unfriend” button to women like this. If you don’t give a shit about whats going on in my life then really there’s no point of you seeing it. If you haven’t noticed this chances are you will now. Women do the same shit in person that they do online. 
Giving Compliments
I don’t know about you, but when a woman compliments me, it makes me happy. It resonates with me, and I genuinely appreciate it. It comes across so much different then it would from a man. Do I appreciate it more because it is so rare? If a woman is wearing a cute dress, I have no problem telling her. If I like her nails or hair, I’m going to let her know. Why? Because compliments are fucking awesome and we don’t give them out enough. We instead come across as a bad bitch who doesn’t need compliments from other women when in reality we would appreciate them. 
Less Hate, More Love
So, the next time you admire a lady, let her know. Be that positive, caring lady that we all need sometimes. Nothing is more empowering than hearing something sweet from a peer. As women, we have so many things in life that are set up to be harder for us. We get paid less than our male colleagues, women make up 1/5 of Congress, we pay more for our female products, and were constant victims of domestic violence. Why would you wanna add to the list by being a hater too? We already have to put up with so much. Next time you think of hating on a lady, think about all the mistreatment she already endures and be that positive light instead. Be a woman lover instead of a lady hater. And if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all!
Can you relate to this subject? What are YOUR thoughts on women empowerment?!
Yoo this article is literally a beast. The rawness of it all is incredibly true! I have seen women hate on other women for being pretty or nice and having it come off as “fake” when in reality they were just being themselves. If all women came together to support each other with compliments and truth women would rule all. I think women forget how nice it is to get a compliment from other people let alone give those compliments to others.
Perfectly said Bash! I think women instantly think the worst when it comes to seeing another woman looking at them. Maybe she simply likes your outfit. Or maybe just thinks you’re beautiful! But instead women think,” why is this bitch staring? What’s her problem?” If we came together and showed love and support to our fellow women it could have such an amazing and lasting affect on our society! I hope more women start to realize this and embrace it !
Yyaaasssss Bash, YAASS!! Exactly what we think too. Thank you so much for having an input and please keep it up! ?
I just felt this….!!! #youGoGirls
Yes girl, thank you! This needs to change in today’s world.
I was JUST thinking about this today. And since I’m a young mom there is SO MUCH that people expect me to live up to. I’m
Pro choice and live and let live but these moms out here are cut throat! I immunize my children and have gotten such horrible looks from my own friends because of it. But I support them choosing not to immunize the whole entire time. And other little things like using baby wipes with fragrance because it causes cancer. Let alone the fact that i didnt chose to breast feed my kids until they could bite my nipples off! No thanks! The looks I get because of that one lol -_- It’s okay tho, we cant expect people to be as cool as us ?
We need more love and respect in this world, and especially as adult women we should be setting the example for the next generation!
Amen, Nina! We absolutely need to set the example for these next generations.
I am not a mean or malicious person. I think everything was given life because they have a purpose in life. I am not here to bring anyone else down – but I also live in my own little world so – I wouldn’t even have time to bring anyone down even if I wanted to! I am also not insecure. And typically women who brings others down are VERY insecure!
Yes! Amen to everything! You hit the nail on the head!
Compliments are free and why not giving to someone when we see something gorgoes in them! I love to compliments to others as it make me happy and of course a genuine one.
Your article is just to the point I must say. You have pointed out the most important things.
I agree with that, we should support each other instead of judging. I am grateful that you’ve open up this current situation. This will be very helpful to bring awareness.
I think stepping our game and not letting someone question our worth is a women empowerment. support each other & no bashing. I remember when i was bullied by a male officemate 2 weeks back. My lady colleague help me to speak out.. and I appreciate that.
Very well expressed…I agree with your views……women hhave to support the women for them to progress..
Regards
This is so awesome!!! Love this post!
Thanks for reading Hannah!
I have always experienced hate from another woman. Maybe because of my strong personality. They thought that I am not that good. But believe me or Not I am a sweet person 🙂
We both can share that experience. Jess and I both have strong personalities and that scares other women for some reason. A strong personality isn’t a bad thing at all. I wish people weren’t so intimidated and seen the sweetness. Thank you for your comment Preet! we appreciate you!
Great post! I believe that in today’s world, especially on the internet, there needs to be more love, more positivity.
Yes! Couldn’t agree more. We need to see more women supporting women everywhere!
Definitely a very important topic. I belong to a women’s empowerment group and the people I have met through it are so uplfiting!
That sounds like a great group to be a part of! It is nice to hear that groups like that exist.
This was so great! I just don’t get all the hate. A lot of it stems from jealousy I think.
Very insightful and empowering to women! Way to go!
Nice post and this is really happening into reality. Why we are not give them a simple smile instead of bashing them. Thank you for sharing this with us I really appreciate it.
This is such a great article that must read by many women out there. We received love from God for free why should we give that to others without any conditions.
I love the concept on women empowerment. We really should be building each other not tearing each other down!
100% the realest article I have read in such a long time. Women need to stop hating on eachother.
Thank you so much Cia! It’s something we strongly believe in changing. Thanks for reading girl!
fab post lady, we all need to raise each other up more rather than tear them down. I was in the car with my sister & niece and saw an elderly lady at the bus stop looking amazing, hair & makeup on point. I would down the window & told her she looked amazing. They couldn’t believe I did that but why not? Hopefully they’ll do the same more too
The future is definitely female! We bring something different and important to everything: business, finance, tech, politics, family, etc!
I love this so much, such an important message. Thanks for sharing.
Every bit of this is SO true. I have in my life been that girl who has not always been supportive of other women. It was insecurities and internalised misogyny. Even since I turned 16 I knew that I needed to work on myself and I started realising that we are allies and never in competition as women.
This was so wonderful to read !! Thank you for sharing! Life as a woman has not always been easy but when I started accepting myself for who I am and supporting other women with conditions.. you start to see womanhood in a new light! Thank you for taking the time to give this one a read 🙂
Yesssss! Say it louder for the people in the back! It is about time that women start empowering women. No one else is going to compliment us and push us to do what we want so it is time we started doing it for each other. I will always try and encourage the women around me to what they want to do, to bring them up when they are feeling down and its time we starting doing that to each and every woman.
I think that so often we are raised as women to believe that we dim our own lights when we raise the light of others, but that is so not true! A candle doesn’t lose it’s brightness by lighting another candle!
I’m really bad at complimenting people but I’m gonna try and do it more!
You are right! We can ALL shine!!! Thank you for reading and always leaving comments for us.
As I was reading this I just kept nodding my head with everything. Even my husband makes comments about how women are horrible to other women when we shouldn’t be. I try to be self aware of it in the moment when I catch myself doing it but it isn’t always easy. Sometimes we get caught up in the gossip of another lady that we don’t think about the damage we’re doing. Like you said, we’re all guilty of it.
I try to compliment other women when I can because, as you said, it somehow means more. Maybe it comes off as more sincere? Or maybe, since it’s not from a man, I don’t feel objectified when it happens. Not sure why, but I do know a compliment from a woman resonates longer and harder than one from a man.
It is so true! Women can be the meanest ones to one another. It makes no sense. And you are right, it shouldn’t be that way. Getting caught up in gossip is so easy these days. We just have to realize when that is going on. Compliments coming from another woman just feel more authentic. I love giving compliments and it always puts the person on the receiving end in a good mood. Thank you for reading and your response was so interesting. We appreciate you, Trina.
Great article about women supporting women!
Thank you so much for reading Beth <3